Colors of the Wind

I was lucky to grow up in the American south with 2 gay best friends. We insulated ourselves from outside barbs and rejection by getting good grades, running student government and Model United Nations. We all graduated college and are off now doing our own thing. I thought about them recently as I sat at Paco's having an afternoon cocktail. They crossed my mind because I noticed 3 older white American gentlemen sitting with 2 lovely Dominican young men. Now normally I would look at this situation and just chalk it up to a group having drinks before they have sex and the young men are paid for their services.

This time the faces of the young Dominican men were replaced by my two friends. You see, my friends, I'll call them Alex and Bobby, have never, I mean never have been with, sexually or romantically, with a man of color. I mean black, brown, yellow or taupe. They both have only been with white men. On many occasions we have had discussions about this topic and they both say, "well they are just the men we are attracted to." I still can't believe that. I just don't understand how you can be gay and go 15 -17 years only having sex with one race. Maybe that's just me. After reading several articles on the subject, I assumed Alex and Booby were suffering from some type of gay black self hatred, they wanted to be white so they only slept with white men. This did not hold water because they were very versed on African American cultural issues, very socially conscious and both pledged African American fraternities. They are both in stable relationships with white men and are very happy---I still don't understand the lack of variety, but that's just me.

OK back to Paco's. After my "wonderment" about Bobby and Alex. My attention turned to the American men. I wondered if they were here just to sleep with the, "dark skinned boys with the big dicks", (a reference I will explain later). I also wondered if they slept with black or brown men, when they were at home. Or more importantly do they acknowledge the very existence of young "colored" men (black,brown taupe), when they are home. Or do they just fawn over the boys when they come here or other hotspots around the globe. I would hope these men have depth of character and display kindness and generosity even when they don't have to pay for it.

I have a light brown skinned Dominican friend. He loves dark skinned men. He talks about them like they are gods, but his boyfriend is as light skinned as he is---I ask why he does not have a dark-skinned boyfriend, he says, "dark skinned men are great in bed, but for boyfriends, they aren't shit". I was stunned. I asked have you been fucked by every dark skinned man in DR to make that determination. He says he has done a random sampling over the years, and every dark skinned boyfriend has done him wrong. As my mother told me, you can't judge the many, by the few. My friend continues to lust after every mahogany skinned man he sees. His catch-phrase is "dark skinned boys with the big dicks do it better".

I have never been one to care about color. I have always been attracted to beautiful eyes and a killer smile, those two qualities can come in any color. My friends call me the United Nations because I have had boyfriends, lovers and, one night stands that range from eastern Europe to Africa, from the Philippians to Brazil. I don't discriminate. I just enjoy the community of nations and all they have to offer. Dominican men come in beautiful shapes, sizes, and yes colors. I appreciate all of them. One Dominican man in particular.

I have concluded after much debate, that you should do what makes you happy. You should sleep with the person who makes your dick hard, regardless of color. Enjoy life and just do you.