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Well let's see.....
I had a blast at David Lee's July 4th Cookout. Lot's of folks in town for the holiday, we had a blast. I didn't take my camera, but Anthony was there. You can see the pics on monaga.com. I did snag a pic of Ramon, Richard and I at the bar. The rain can off and on and Iwe left before the fireworks, i think. I had a few to many cocktails, damn that Anthony!
Today is Richard's birthday. He is working in Monte Cristi today. I have planned a very special celebration tonight. No pictures!
Their is a big track meet this weekend at the Olympic Stadium. The meet features athletes from Cuba, PR, DR and the US. This is going to be a great event. I love sprinters, those shapely, muscular legs drive me wild. I am very interested in meeting Felix Sanchez. He won the gold medal in the 400 meters hurdles at the Athens Olympics. He is from the DR and is a hottie. I have heard that of all athletes track athletes are the gayest, behind figure skaters of course. I will be taking the camera. I used to run track in high school and love the sport. I would love to find a track club here in the DR. My events were the 100 and 200 meters.
If you like gay erotica, please check out my friends blog about his sexcapades in the DR. The stories are in Spanish, but find a translator online and read these stories. They are very hot. The pictures are also amazing. The site is http://relatosgdominicanos.blogspot.com/
You will not be disappointed.
posted by The Byron @ 7:17 AM
34 Comments:
At 7:35 PM,
Anonymous said…
byron I loved the link you posted
i just love santo domingo here I go back in 1 month for two whole weeks I will definitive go out of santo domingo and visit other town and providences
thanks so much I love your blog Jerry nyc
At 12:45 AM,
Anonymous said…
I just want to let you know that many of us that have met you when you were working on the Casa New Yorker with Scotch think you are a real shit for getting Scotch to leave the USA and invest his whole life in the guesthouse in a 3rd world country and then dump him when the first Dominican comes along. Many of us have discussed this and hope that someone does even worse to you. You are the lowest human being on earth. You could have left him in New York and gone yourself if you were thinking of leaving him stranded and alone in Santo Domingo. I wish you lots of grief and continous bad luck for being such a terrible person.
signed, one of the 1st customers you had at the New Yorker.
At 5:01 PM,
The Byron said…
1.I didn't convince anyone to do anything.
2. "leaving him stranded and alone in Santo Domingo", please, give me a break
3.I didn't leave, we broke up becasue we were not happy, ask him.
4.When I started to develop feelings for someone else, I should have ended the relationship, that is on me. Thank you for your comments.
At 8:16 AM,
Anonymous said…
Byron-
The above poster vocalizes perceptions from people who initially met you both in DR. I personally don't wish you bad anything.
Your blog does seem to gloat over a temporary happiness with another man at the expense of your former partner. Keep in mind though, what goes around comes around. The games are played a little bit different in Santo Domingo than they are in NYC; absolute survival is the name of the game so the stakes are higher. While it is nothing new for a man to go to DR and lose his mind over dick, this particular drama is set for a spectacular 360 turn around.
One last thought; many of the "friends" you have made here are sitting back waiting for the finale. I have no doubt it will be divine.
At 3:49 PM,
Anonymous said…
Mr. One-of-the-firsts-guest:
I see you have been busy making an extensive analisys of Byron's actions. Maybe its time for do the same for yourself and treat with your therapist your anger, frustruation and unhappiness. A dominican boyfriend like Richard may help you, but not sure you can achieve to someone like him. Just want to suggest that since you defend and love Scotch that much, why dont you two get together so you get a free hostage and he gets a new compasive boyfriend?
At 5:31 PM,
The Byron said…
If I gave the impression that I was gloating, that was not my intent. If you read some comments from a few weeks ago, I stated that I don't want to hurt anyone. I was just expressing my joy. How do you know my joy is tempoary? I'm not some crazy queen who lost his mind over some dick. I was connected to Richard emotionally, long before anything physical happened. Dude, I want everybody to be happy, I don't wish anything bad on anyone.
At 4:35 AM,
Anonymous said…
What is all this evilness all of a sudden? Anonymous wrote," I personally don't wish you anything bad." And ends by writing,"...many of the "friends" you have made here are sitting back waiting for the finale. I have no doubt it will be divine." He may not wish Byron anything bad outright, but his ironic tone in closing leads me to believe otherwise. What is this bullshit!? Let Scotch and Byron get on with their lives already!
From Puerto Rico,
Rafael
At 10:28 AM,
Anonymous said…
First, I have to give MAJOR props to byron for even posting the negative comments and observations- anonymously at that- on his blog. Tens across the board on that alone.
Is it at all surprising, given what the vast majority of expat/native relationships are based on, given what most dominican men are like, given the one sided portrayal of this paradise- by byron, that some of these comments would be negative?
in light of the overwhelming majority of visitors/expats first hand, long term experiences have been; What do you think the reaction would be? Bravo?
Since the painting sketched by Byron is rather vague (his right) and since many people met Byron and Scotch as a couple who just picked up and moved here (on Scotch's dime), again I have to ask you; what did you think the reaction would be?
Also, please decipher the above comments regarding hostages and compasive (I don't know what that word means) boyfriend. That alone escalates this whole thread through the roof.
Lastly, there is no irony in my choosing the word divine. Perhaps you are only familiar with one definition of the word.
At 4:15 PM,
Anonymous said…
I wish people would put names to what they post! To anonymous who wrote, "I personally don't wish you bad anything." From your most recent message, I gather you are a fairly educated person (good use of grammar, precise and to the point, logical order of ideas, etc.). So, you are no fool. You know full well what you wrote is ironic. And what you wrote says that you are "all" waiting for this relationship to crash and burn! Enough said.
From Puerto Rico,
Rafael
At 4:23 PM,
Anonymous said…
Hope you survive without any real income. Teaching Dominicans to speak English should buy you enough for rice & beans, but not much else. Dominicans will tire of you very quickly when you're "Betty Broke" all the time, and that goes for the Dominican York you're living with too. All they are really interested in is your money or getting you to sponsor a Visa.
At 6:18 PM,
The Byron said…
Teaching English is fun and rewarding. I don't do it for the money. I enjoy it. I've saved up about $20,000 over the last three years, so that should get through the next couple of months. My parents have also helped out. Thanks for asking.
At 6:19 PM,
The Byron said…
Rafel,
Your support has been great. I took yor advice and I am moving on. See ya soon!
At 5:51 AM,
Anonymous said…
I don’t understand every time you write some thing it’s got some BS lie in it. Who are you going to teach English too? The DR buggarones in the sports bar, mmmmm don’t you think you need to learn Spanish first to translate to English. Your Spanish is not up to par to be translating. So to say you’re just doing it for fun! Does not make any sense since you know it’s for the money! Richard you’re so over the hill with Richard then you’re driving around measuring others. Same thing you did with scotch! I’m off taking pix yea we see your pix. It all comes back missy in pink, the world is round and it will come back to U. From the first time we met you were to plastic in pink! Girl you’re just too much for even for a Wal-mart plastic bag! NY
At 10:24 AM,
Anonymous said…
Sissy Shit OVERFLOWING!!! When you low HO's can't find it on Anthony's blog, you start making it up on this one.
1. The relationship between Scotch and Soda are over, said and done. Let it die.
2. Byron, you be careful, your rose colored glasses are fading, so don't put all your business on this blog. When the real world drops a turd on your head, you don't want the world to know.
3. Haters...get a life of your own, stop instigating the bullshit down there.
4. Rafael, you are fierce!!!
Love "Big Mama".
At 4:13 PM,
Anonymous said…
Oh, c'mon Big Mama; it isn't sissy shit overflowing from one site to another. It's the DRama.
There are not many sites that give the 411 on DR. The other site, the original, still gives an overall view of what's happening. Byron's site gives a heavily edited, myopic view of his extended visit down here.
This site set itself up as a bee hive; There are not many black men from the US who came here with their white lover, opened up a guest house, began an affair with a local, dumped their white lover for the local, left the now ex-lover holding the bag and meanwhile, even though he's found the love- of- his- life (testified about it. repeat, testfied about it), still travels the island seeking out the biggest dicks in DR, (which doesn't say too much for the poor local boyfriend) with no money, and all the while describing himself as a white lady- Gloria Vanderbilt (with very poor grammar and spelling skills), and- put- it- out- here- for- the- world- to- see- and- make- commentary.
So Big Mama, I ask you; What sissy shit? It's just the DRama.
At 6:05 PM,
The Byron said…
1.Holding what bag? I didn't break up with Scotch.
2.We take trips together and see these things together.
3.Don't speak about things you have no information on.
4. If you don't like it, don't read or visit my site. That is your right.
5.Anthony said I would encounter jealous and mean people, he was right.
Thank you for your comments. I will not be putting my life out there again. I will let everybody argue about Leon, Mario Sessions and rent boys.
At 7:13 PM,
Anonymous said…
To be honest with you, it is not easy to do what you did to Scotch and think your going to come out smelling like a rose , that just is not possible. On top of that you braged about your new , so call Boyfriend, Richard, and all his additional assets or not, if they were true or just white lies. My suggestion would be for you to be very carful of what you say and to whom you say it too, becuase you can not get away with what happen with you and your X without people lashing out at you, because of the hurt you caused, someone always ends up on the short end of the stick and to most people who read this blog it appears they are with Scotch.No matter what happen,,, on the end everyone gets the payback , and let me tell you, payback can be a real BITCH, so if your right and caused no pain to anyone you have nonthing to fear but if you did cause hurt and pain to some one in the process then , If I were you , start praying, ok cause HELL could be facing you in the very near future , only you know what you did and what really happen, ok I wish you well and god bless the outcome..NY again
At 8:28 AM,
Anonymous said…
You Right, you right, it is the DRama, you know that "Sissy Shit" stuff. Tired, throneless queens, with too much time on they hands and no "loyal subjects" to fuck with, they search the internet from blog to blog, looking for a tid-bit to grab onto and "reak havoc", that means "starting shit" in Big Mama talk.
Byron, baby..... you don't owe these HO's an explination for your actions. So you don't need to respond to every "bullshit" comment that comes out. But at the same time, girl.... don't sit yourself up, with some of your stupid comments, for the turds these bitches be throwing at you.
Big Mama loves all her babies down there in DR, Big Mama would not know what to do without the personal blogs detailing all the dirt about all the "Sissy Shit" going on down there.
But why should those Ho's have all the fun.... I heard that Miss Leon's new place was open for the 3rd weekend and for the last two, she had about 5 clients, I heard it is the neighborhood, the children are scared to go there.
I also heard that Miss Chachita's place is ready to open the end of the month and the Dominican gays can't wait to get up in that place. Be careful Chachita, don't let the devil throw a headrag or manbag in your plans.
I just love these blogs...."sissy shit".
Love Big Mama
At 9:28 AM,
Anonymous said…
Guys and girls.
Byron's and Scotch relationship was dead long before Richard came up to scene. Like any other relationship it had good and bad times, and the scenary for both of them take separated roads was Santo Domingo.
The same had happened to other american couples in the past when they came down hunting for dick to this island.
Up to I know Scotch is fine, meeting other boys -some of them cute some just pieces of meat-, going out to local bars, burning his brain to make the hotel profitable (we all should help him), and traveling around the island too (I have traveled few times with him). So the drama and curses in the name of Scotch is a waste of time.
Byron is doing the same. Getting used to a new companion is not easy, mostly when he has to use part of the time trying to be productive, and has to make new friends that help him instead of hurt him. Life is not perfect but "life is now" like the Visa ad and they are living it. Both of them are happier now than a couple of months before.
Richard and Byron's relationship could or could not work, but give them a chance. At least Richard is not a cheap haitian bugarron milking Byron like one couple I have seen that is only based on a hatian big dick and the gringo big wallet. Byron is being trying to be commited to this relationship, maybe he has learned the lesson.
Dominican York living with Byron.
At 10:47 AM,
Anonymous said…
Who are these american/haitian couple that you have mentioned???? You mean...wow!!!... is that relationship based on $$$$, they look so in love!, yeah right.
At 6:02 PM,
Anonymous said…
Hatian... big dick... could his name begin with "r"? Please don't tell me that fool is actually stringing someone along. I just don't get it. Of course it could be the other hatian that pretends he's dominican who's name begins with "g". Now I could see openning up the pearly gates for this one.. well, for a week anyway... but still.
At 6:11 PM,
Anonymous said…
Responding to the Dominican York. You're right about many of your observations. One thing though, Byron chose to blog about a life in DR that is less than honest. When you publicly write about things completely out of context, leave out the messy parts, and paint everything in the most flattering light possible, it always backfires.
It's like a bad advertisement: people just don't buy the product.
At 7:20 PM,
Anonymous said…
Why don't you leave the Haitian description out of your comments?
You're type-casting (ie - bigotry)a nationality just like you like to accuse the Dominicans of doing.
At 10:33 AM,
Anonymous said…
"Dominicans will tire of you very quickly when you're "Betty Broke" all the time, and that goes for the Dominican York you're living with too. All they are really interested in is your money or getting you to sponsor a Visa.".
So it is bigotry when a dominican mentions a haitian, but is not bigotry when an white american talks about dominicans and generalize about "how dominicans are"?
It's not easy to hit a man and not pretend to get a punch back in this world, not even it you are from the "first and developed world". As I told Scotch I am sending you "my sincerely apollogy, respect and a flower as a symbol of peace" but next time think twice before using a dominican like me to post your ideas at my expense.
At 6:11 PM,
Anonymous said…
Dear anonymous (above poster),
It is ME who owes YOU an apology. And I will stop the anonymous bullshit and introduce myself. My name is Eddie. You may have thought that post was done by another white American who lives there now, but it was not. I made the post.
When I wrote what I did, I was honestly just thinking of bugarrons. And I made a mistaken assumption that both you and Byron's new lover were either bugarrons or at least what we call in NYC "street players." Because I have never met (or don't recall meeting) any of you personally, I should not have assumed such a thing. At least for you, I now know this is not true. I sincerely apologize. I do not believe that all Dominicans are out for our money. Just bugarrons. Over the years I have met many nice, educated and very professional people in the Dominican Republic. I never felt that they were only speaking to me to try to get my money.
But when it comes to bugarrons, I do believe what I said to be absolutely true. They are with us for our money and what we can possibly do for them. It's their JOB. I do believe it's possible that a bugarron can develop some true feelings for a tourist, but in the end, these feelings are based on the fact that the tourist, for whatever time the relationship goes on, has made the bugarron's life easier. And all this goes for the bugarron that I've been "keeping" for the last 5 1/2 years too. But those are my issues and no on elses.
Again, I apologize. I will be in Santo Domingo again around Thanksgiving, and I would like the chance to meet all of you.
Eddie
At 6:57 AM,
Anonymous said…
First than anything, and again, my public, humble and sincerely apology to the person that got hurt with that confusion. I was told that was you who made that nasty comment picturing all dominicans as bugarrons. That's why I hit you back, and now I am sorry for it, and angry at the person who told me the wrong information. I explain.
I have nothing good to say about bugarrons, neither about the aging tourists using their "services" and get robbed or scamed by them. Bugarrons and tourists acuse each others of being using the other but the truth is that they love to do what they do and love to be abused so they have a story to tell and a reason to be. Sometimes the end of the story is good, like you and the haitian you have honored with your mercy, but most of the time is a sad story ending.
In DR is not different that in any place. You, in USA, call it "sugar daddy" here we call it "tourist", in Europe or Asia maybe they have other names; there you have an "escort" or a less educated "hustler", here we call it "bugarron" and he is all about getting money or a financialed life one way or other. I feel nothing for that system.
Now you understand why I got pissed when someone call Richard anything close to bugarron, or mention me as trying to live out of someone's money. I am Richard boss, and I know how hard he works to get his paycheck.
At the sametime I am Byron's friend -the same as Scotch- and whatever the reason they had to split (not my problem), with no questions asked, I would help any of them at any moment they ask me for with no preference. Byron asked to stay with me for a while and I say yes, and at any time Scotch need my help, I would also do it, as I have done since the first time they moved to DR.
My respect and best regards,
At 7:48 AM,
Anonymous said…
I also thought I should mention that I only made the one post you referenced. I don't know who made the other post(s) about Haitians. My "kept man" is 100 percent Dominican, born and raised in Villa Francisca. I do know for a fact the person who wrote about Haitians was not who you assumed it was. That person has posted nothing on this site or anyone else’s and has nothing but respect for you and all concerned. It is unfortunate that he was so viscously attacked in these comments.
Eddie
NYC
At 11:27 AM,
Anonymous said…
I also want to apologize for assuming Richard was a bugarron. I made assumptions based on stereotypes, and I should not have done that. I am truly sorry.
Byron, Richard and Fab, I wish you all the best and hope to be able to meet all of you in November!
Eddie
At 4:43 AM,
Anonymous said…
does any one know why they call them bugarron? Also if any one know what is the asking price now! how much is to much!thinking of going down in Nov.
At 5:42 AM,
Anonymous said…
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At 5:52 PM,
Anonymous said…
Bugarron 3 arriba, 2 abajo
El macho en una pareja de homosexuales masculinos. Por Ejemplo: "Hay muchos bugarrones en esta discoteca."
Enviada por DannY Jun 02, 2006
http://www.mundoreggaeton.com/diccionario/palabras-b/Bugarron.htm
Translation: "[bugarron]male peer of a male homosexual. For instance 'there are many bugarrons in this club'".
At 5:54 PM,
Anonymous said…
bugarron is derogative puertorican slang for homosexual male.
tags bugarron bugarrón
by Chamaco Puerto Rico Jan 9, 2006 http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=bugarron
At 6:03 PM,
Anonymous said…
The male who performs sexual work in the city is known as “Bugarron” and the one on the beach is called a “Sanky Panky”.
The term “Bugarron” comes from the old Spanish word “Bujarron” which meant sodomite; the term “Sanky Panky” originated from the English term “Hanky Panky”, meaning a “quickie”, or a fast sexual encounter.
The Bugarrón is known as the “top” in a gay sexual relation,
The one assuming the role of “Macho”.
And he regularly charges for the sexual favors.
The Sanky Panky sells pleasure regardless of the client’s gender or sex.
He assumes the role of Bugarrón when the client is a male,
and the role of perfect lover when the client is a female.
This activity provides them with an income that is above the average within their own social level. By assuming this identity they are not labeled as homosexuals although they engage in homosexual activities.
91% admited the used condoms during exclusively anal sex.
87% admitted not using condoms with their partners once they became close. Also admitted they flet not need to use a condom with their femal partners if thy knew them. 93% expressed that the use of condoms are not neces sary during oral sex.
This population requires an intervention that should revise the existing concept of masculinity and at the same time increased theyr perception of risk and the level of self steem
To guarantee the succes of an educational intevention in a popular in a population of bisexual men, it must analyse the posibility that bisexuality and male sexual work represent a clear psycological and social permission to cope with their unaccepted homosexuality
This situation increases thir risk of infection or transmission of sexually transmitted infections, including the HIV.
http://www.caribbean-march-2004.org/presentation/sat_4_f2/sanchez_sat_4_f2.ppt
At 6:21 PM,
Anonymous said…
One category which did survive the cultural upheaval of the Revolution was the nineteenth century bugarron, a man who was active-insertive during anal intercourse. His partner was a maricon, a man feminized by his receptive role during intercourse. Bugarronismo left intact traditional gender roles: Sexual object was less important than sexual act, so that penetration of another man did not irreparably call into question a Cuban's gender identity. That is, a bugarron was still an hombre because he penetrated with his phallus, even though the object was another man. And the maricon was no longer a man because he was penetrated, even though he had a male body. Though in practice it is possible that all manner of sexual activity did occur and that some bugarrones did allow themselves to be penetrated, in representation the gender identity of the bugarron was stable and protected.
In the realm of homoerotic sexual behavior insertive partners are rare and prized in Cuba as elsewhere, and so a maricon has always been willing to entice his bugarr6n with a material incentive. But during the Revolution the bugarr6n-maricon interaction took on a specifically socialist character: It tended away from the transactional and toward the relational. It is true that, as in the United States, there was a fairly brutal oppression of homoerotically inclined Cubans in the 1960s, but this was ended with laws of legalization and tolerance in the mid 1970s, far sooner than such activity was legal in most of the states of the North.
A relationship between a bugarron and his maricon was often more than a sex-for-money exchange; it may have lasted for years and involved exchange of favors or cohabitation. This is surely due in part to the inefficiency of currency exchange in an economy in which most wealth was socialized. It is also true that a currency exchange would lay bare the sometimes material interest in the bugarronmaricon sex act. But it could also be argued that the relational character of male sex work in Havana before dollarization was a cultural product in keeping with socialist relationality. Though it is being rapidly eroded with the onslaught of market relations in sex work; this relational tendency persists to this day. Money or, especially, clothing are accepted from tourists, but this ex change is constructed as "help" from a "friend," not as payment from a trick.
(please read the whole article here: http://www.csupomona.edu/~cubaprogram/Colonization%20of%20the%20Cuban%20Body_files/Colonization%20of%20the%20Cuban%20Body.htm)
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